I take no pleasure in imagining that the stress we’re all experiencing as a result of COVID-19 combined with the strains of sheltering in place have resulted...

Let’s be honest: cohabitating with your spouse/partner/significant other/special someone (hereafter referred to as your “person”) can be difficult even in th...

Dealing with difficult emotions during the COVID-19 pandemic, part I Have you ever had someone tell you to “just relax” or “calm down” when you were freaking...

Every now and then I’ll be at a party or a networking event or something like that, and someone will ask me – as people do – what I do for a living. If the r...

There are so many messages out there in our culture about how romantic relationships are supposed to be a continuous source of joy and happiness and delight ...

The holidays – a certain set of them, anyway – are nearly upon us. If you celebrate American Thanksgiving, that’s right around the corner. For many people, t...

You’re engaged to be married. And you’re starting to realize you have very mixed feelings about this state of affairs. You thought you wanted to get married....

Sometimes, when we think we did something wrong in the past – or think we failed to do something that we should have done – we beat ourselves up for our past...

What exactly do I do? I help people work through situations that have to do with love, relationships, and sexuality. These elements of our lives can bring us...

It’s eclipse season. There’s one on July 2, and another on July 16. Astrologically speaking, eclipse seasons are especially potent times of transformation; m...

It’s a question worth asking yourself in any area of your life. And it’s especially important to ask about how you’re showing up in your romantic relationshi...

Sometimes we feel like we can’t escape the past. Sometimes we feel like the past has tremendous power to define our current reality. We feel haunted by thing...

There are so many messages out there in our culture that tell us that romantic relationships are supposed to be a continuous source of joy and happiness and ...

One of the biggest take-aways from my 20-plus years of experience as a sex(uality) educator and researcher is that people have a lot of strong ideas about se...

Sometimes humans do things that result in other humans feeling really hurt or wronged or upset. And sometimes humans do things that result in other humans fe...

Your <child/sibling/partner/parent/best friend/next door neighbor/mentor/spiritual advisor> has been accused of a sex crime. Sex crimes, actually. You are, t...

I'm not endorsing the idea that any of the above-illustrated possibilities should actually go on anyone's list of deal-breakers, by the way. Oh, except maybe...

Relationship deal-breakers come in many forms. Last week I posted about working in the sex industry and dating people who are uncomfortable with your occupat...

You’ve been dating someone for a little while now. And they’re great. You’re starting to think that this could be the beginning of a beautiful relationship. ...

You have a new job. In the sex work industry. Maybe you’re dancing. Maybe you’re escorting. Maybe you’ve turned your therapeutic massage practice into a bus...