You’re Not the Only One
The online, self-guided course that gives you the tools, guidance, and support you need to deal with your infidelity situation in a way that you feel great about.
ENROLL NOW!
You’re Not the Only One
The course that gives you the tools, guidance, and support you need to deal with your infidelity situation in a way that you feel great about.
ENROLL NOW!You’re Not the Only One is a self-guided, online course that contains the teachings you need to address any and all aspects of your infidelity situation.
Enroll now for $699!
Are you ready to...
Feel relieved?
Feel empowered?
Start dealing with your infidelity situation in a way that you feel great about, one manageable step at a time?
Are you ready to...
Feel relieved?
Feel empowered?
Start dealing with your infidelity situation in a way that you feel great about, one manageable step at a time?
In You’re Not the Only One...
You get all of my powerful teachings delivered to you in video form.
Watching the videos is kind of like hanging out with me in my office, and having me deliver my unique blend of radical compassion and no-nonsense tough love directly to you.
You’re Not the Only One also contains assignments that help you APPLY my teachings to the specifics of your unique infidelity situation.
When you make use of the tools and guidance I give you, you will find that resolving your infidelity situation in a way that’s truly right for you is totally do-able. (Challenging, perhaps, but far less challenging than you might have thought!)
The You’re Not the Only One course materials are housed in an online portal that you can access 24/7 once you enroll.
You can make use of the teachings and assignments on your own schedule, and at your own pace. You’ll have access to the materials forever – i.e., for as long as the course exists, which should be for a very long time, barring all of the usual unforeseeable disasters.
In You’re Not the Only One...
You get all of my powerful teachings delivered to you in video form.
Watching the videos is kind of like hanging out with me in my office, and having me deliver my unique blend of radical compassion and no-nonsense tough love directly to you.
You’re Not the Only One also contains assignments that help you APPLY my teachings to the specifics of your unique infidelity situation.
When you make use of the tools and guidance I give you, you will find that resolving your infidelity situation in a way that’s truly right for you is totally do-able. (Challenging, perhaps, but far less challenging than you might have thought!)
The You’re Not the Only One course materials are housed in an online portal that you can access 24/7 once you enroll.
You can make use of the teachings and assignments on your own schedule, and at your own pace. You’ll have access to the materials forever – i.e., for as long as the course exists, which should be for a very long time, barring all of the usual unforeseeable disasters.
In You’re Not the Only One…
We will look at your infidelity situation from a neutral, non-judgmental perspective.
It’s practically impossible to shame yourself or scold yourself into making sustainable, positive changes. Self-acceptance is a far better motivator of change than self-reproach, so we start with radical acceptance of the state of your, ahem, affairs.
You will learn how to deal with the intense emotions that so often come along with engaging in infidelity.
Being able to consciously and skillfully deal with intense emotions is – in my humble opinion - one of the closest things to a superpower that humans can develop.Â
You will learn how to make clear decisions for reasons that you feel good about.
Even if you consider yourself an excellent decision-maker in other areas of your life, you may find it really hard to make decisions about your infidelity situation. I get it – and I’m going to help you make the choices that seem impossible to make.
You will be encouraged and supported as you step into the driver’s seat and actively assume the role of master of your own destiny!
YES, LET’S DO THIS!
In You’re Not the Only One…
We will look at your infidelity situation from a neutral, non-judgmental perspective.
It’s practically impossible to shame yourself or scold yourself into making sustainable, positive changes. Self-acceptance is a far better motivator of change than self-reproach, so we start with radical acceptance of the state of your, ahem, affairs.
You will learn how to deal with the intense emotions that so often come along with engaging in infidelity.
Being able to consciously and skillfully deal with intense emotions is – in my humble opinion - one of the closest things to a superpower that humans can develop.Â
You will learn how to think about your infidelity situation systematically and deliberately… rather than haphazardly. This is IMPORTANT.
Being able to consciously and skillfully deal with intense emotions is – in my humble opinion - one of the closest things to a superpower that humans can develop.Â
You will learn how to make clear decisions for reasons that you feel good about.
Even if you consider yourself an excellent decision-maker in other areas of your life, you may find it really hard to make decisions about your infidelity situation. I get it – and I’m going to help you make the choices that seem impossible to make.
You will be encouraged and supported as you step into the driver’s seat and actively assume the role of master of your own destiny!
YES, LET’S DO THIS!
There are four main reasons why you probably haven’t figured out how to deal with your infidelity situation yet:
We live in a world in which infidelity is INCREDIBLY stigmatized (despite the fact that it is incredibly common!).
There are so many messages out there that proclaim that infidelity is bad, people who engage in infidelity are bad, and that’s just the end of the story. It can be really hard to think clearly about what we want to do about our infidelity situation when mainstream conversations about infidelity are completely devoid of nuance and compassion.
Closely related to the first problem, we may think very badly of ourselves for engaging in infidelity.
Closely related to the first problem, we may think very badly of ourselves for engaging in infidelity. While it’s fair enough to not like engaging in infidelity, beating yourself up for whatever you’re doing isn’t going to help you clarify what you want and make changes. We have to set our judgments aside, and look at what we’re doing infidelity-wise from a neutral, compassionate perspective. (And if you don’t feel guilty about cheating, lucky you! But you may still have to deal with problems #3 and #4…)
We seek answers from outside sources.
We seek answers from outside sources. We consume advice – maybe by reading every single article about infidelity on the internet, maybe by scrolling TikTok all night – in the hope that the next thing we read will help us find the clarity and certainty we desire. But this approach rarely works! Because the truth is, we have to actively DECIDE what we want. We have to CULTIVATE the clarity and certainty we’re looking for. And to move forward, we need to develop the skills to clarify what we want and make decisions about what we’re going to do – rather than endlessly consuming advice, without taking action.
We lack to the tools we need to deal with our infidelity situation systematically and deliberately!
We lack to the tools we need to deal with our infidelity situation systematically and deliberately! Infidelity situations can come with some pretty pronounced difficulties and novel challenges, and nobody teaches us how to deal with these kinds of things! So we ruminate! We panic! We stay up all night Googling and Googling for answers! We put ourselves into a state of paralysis through analysis! And none of these “strategies” get us ANYWHERE.
In You’re Not the Only One, we address all four of these problems.
There are four main reasons why you probably haven’t figured out how to deal with your infidelity situation yet:
We live in a world in which infidelity is INCREDIBLY stigmatized (despite the fact that it is incredibly common!).
We live in a world in which infidelity is INCREDIBLY stigmatized (despite the fact that it is incredibly common!). There are so many messages out there that proclaim that infidelity is bad, people who engage in infidelity are bad, and that’s just the end of the story. It can be really hard to think clearly about what we want to do about our infidelity situation when mainstream conversations about infidelity are completely devoid of nuance and compassion.
Closely related to the first problem, we may think very badly of ourselves for engaging in infidelity.
Closely related to the first problem, we may think very badly of ourselves for engaging in infidelity. While it’s fair enough to not like engaging in infidelity, beating yourself up for whatever you’re doing isn’t going to help you clarify what you want and make changes. We have to set our judgments aside, and look at what we’re doing infidelity-wise from a neutral, compassionate perspective. (And if you don’t feel guilty about cheating, lucky you! But you may still have to deal with problems #3 and #4…)
We seek answers from outside sources.
We seek answers from outside sources. We consume advice – maybe by reading every single article about infidelity on the internet, maybe by scrolling TikTok all night – in the hope that the next thing we read will help us find the clarity and certainty we desire. But this approach rarely works! Because the truth is, we have to actively DECIDE what we want. We have to CULTIVATE the clarity and certainty we’re looking for. And to move forward, we need to develop the skills to clarify what we want and make decisions about what we’re going to do – rather than endlessly consuming advice, without taking action.
We lack to the tools we need to deal with our infidelity situation systematically and deliberately!
We lack to the tools we need to deal with our infidelity situation systematically and deliberately! Infidelity situations can come with some pretty pronounced difficulties and novel challenges, and nobody teaches us how to deal with these kinds of things! So we ruminate! We panic! We stay up all night Googling and Googling for answers! We put ourselves into a state of paralysis through analysis! And none of these “strategies” get us ANYWHERE.
In You’re Not the Only One, we address all four of these problems.
Here’s an overview of what we cover in the course:
Taking Inventory
In this unit, we take a neutral, non-judgmental look at what’s going on within your infidelity situation, and we start to clarify your goals. It’s okay to clarify what you want to do about your infidelity situation incrementally! This course is designed to help you figure out what you want to do about your infidelity situation – it’s not a prerequisite for getting started.
But you do have to be willing to start to clarify what you want! Because that’s how you ultimately get what you want.
Essential Tools and Concepts
In this unit, I teach you the things you need to know about being human that we all should have been taught in kindergarten. Specifically, you will learn how to deal with your thoughts and manage your mind, and you will learn how to tolerate – and even embrace! – your most uncomfortable emotions.
What does this have to do with dealing with your infidelity situation? EVERYTHING. You’ll see!
Dealing with Other PeopleÂ
Other people are the best! And also the worst!!! And some of the hardest things about infidelity have to do with our relationships with other people. Will we devastate our spouse if we leave our marriage? Will everyone hate us and say horrible things about us if we become That Person who left their marriage for their affair partner?
In this unit, I teach you how to deal with other people’s feelings, and other people’s opinions so that you can find the right balance between caring about other people and being their prisoner.
Making Decisions
The stakes of the decisions you make about your infidelity situation may seem impossibly high! Even if you consider yourself an excellent decision-maker in other areas of your life, the choices you’re facing in relation to your infidelity situation may seem too scary or too complicated to make.
You may be terrified of making the “wrong decisions,” or making choices you regret. In this unit, you will learn how to make choices about your infidelity situation that you can have deep confidence in.Â
Ending a Relationship
Resolving your infidelity situation in a way that you feel great about may involve ending a relationship (or maybe multiple relationships). And this isn’t a bad thing – except most of us have very little experience executing compassionate and effective breakups!
In this unit I help you prepare for, execute, and follow through on a breakup. Breaking up with someone you care about is unlikely to be the most delightful thing you ever do, but it doesn’t have to be an epic trainwreck – for you or your person. Plus, I tell you about something you absolutely must be aware of when you’re breaking up with someone you have a lot of history with that no one else will alert you to.Â
Creating the Relationships You Want to Have
Once you’ve sorted out your infidelity situation, you get to ENJOY your love life/sex life/romantic life/relationship life! Which is THE WHOLE POINT of resolving your infidelity situation!!!! And… cultivating the relationship(s) you want to have takes deliberate – even if joyful - effort.
In this unit, we step away from psychobabble and the nonsense of the Relationship Advice Industrial Complex and we demystify the process of creating relationships you love.
Here’s an overview of what we cover in the course:
Taking Inventory
In this unit, we take a neutral, non-judgmental look at what’s going on within your infidelity situation, and we start to clarify your goals. It’s okay to clarify what you want to do about your infidelity situation incrementally! This course is designed to help you figure out what you want to do about your infidelity situation – it’s not a prerequisite for getting started.
But you do have to be willing to start to clarify what you want! Because that’s how you ultimately get what you want.
Essential Tools and Concepts
In this unit, I teach you the things you need to know about being human that we all should have been taught in kindergarten. Specifically, you will learn how to deal with your thoughts and manage your mind, and you will learn how to tolerate – and even embrace! – your most uncomfortable emotions.
What does this have to do with dealing with your infidelity situation? EVERYTHING. You’ll see!
Dealing with Other PeopleÂ
Other people are the best! And also the worst!!! And some of the hardest things about infidelity have to do with our relationships with other people. Will we devastate our spouse if we leave our marriage? Will everyone hate us and say horrible things about us if we become That Person who left their marriage for their affair partner?
In this unit, I teach you how to deal with other people’s feelings, and other people’s opinions so that you can find the right balance between caring about other people and being their prisoner.
Making Decisions
The stakes of the decisions you make about your infidelity situation may seem impossibly high! Even if you consider yourself an excellent decision-maker in other areas of your life, the choices you’re facing in relation to your infidelity situation may seem too scary or too complicated to make.
You may be terrified of making the “wrong decisions,” or making choices you regret. In this unit, you will learn how to make choices about your infidelity situation that you can have deep confidence in.Â
Ending a Relationship
Resolving your infidelity situation in a way that you feel great about may involve ending a relationship (or maybe multiple relationships). And this isn’t a bad thing – except most of us have very little experience executing compassionate and effective breakups!
In this unit I help you prepare for, execute, and follow through on a breakup. Breaking up with someone you care about is unlikely to be the most delightful thing you ever do, but it doesn’t have to be an epic trainwreck – for you or your person. Plus, I tell you about something you absolutely must be aware of when you’re breaking up with someone you have a lot of history with that no one else will alert you to.Â
Creating the Relationships You Want to Have
Once you’ve sorted out your infidelity situation, you get to ENJOY your love life/sex life/romantic life/relationship life! Which is THE WHOLE POINT of resolving your infidelity situation!!!! And… cultivating the relationship(s) you want to have takes deliberate – even if joyful - effort.
In this unit, we step away from psychobabble and the nonsense of the Relationship Advice Industrial Complex and we demystify the process of creating relationships you love.
Frequntly Asked Questions
I listen to your podcast all the time. How is enrolling in the course different from listening to your podcast?
When you enroll in You’re Not the Only One, you will learn tools and concepts that go beyond what I offer on the podcast, and you will learn how to MAKE USE of those tools and concepts in your own life. Passively receiving information by listening to podcasts can be great. But actively making use of powerful tools and concepts is even better, and the course is designed to help you do that.
If I enroll in the course, will I receive personalized advice and support?
The teachings in You’re Not the Only One were informed by the expertise I’ve gained after helping hundreds of clients successfully resolve their infidelity situations, so the guidance and support within the course will definitely apply to you. That said, this is a self-study course that does not include personalized coaching. If that is what you are looking for, working with me one-on-one will be a better option.
Is the course enrollment fee covered by health insurance?
I do not accept health insurance, and most health insurance plans do not cover coaching. However, some clients have successfully used their HSA “credit cards” to pay for my services. Whether or not this works out for you is between you and your health insurance company.
I think my infidelity situation is pretty unique – it’s not the typical affair scenario. Is the course a good fit for my needs?
I’ve seen a LOT of different kinds of infidelity situations over the years, and the course is designed to help people deal with their unique experiences of infidelity. Although the examples of infidelity situations that I refer to in the course may not EXACTLY match up with your current experiences, the teachings will DEFINITELY apply to what you are dealing with.Â
If I enroll in the course and I think I need additional support, what should I do?

You can work with me one-on-one! To get started, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with me here.
How long does the course last?
You will have access to all of the course materials as soon as you enroll, and you can make use of them at your own pace. Once you purchase the course, you will have access to it forever – meaning, for as long as the course exists (which should be for a very long time, barring all of the usual unforeseeable emergencies).Â
What is your refund policy?
Sorry, no refunds. If this concerns you, you may wish to take advantage of my podcast, Your Secret is Safe with Me, which is free, and always will be.
Enroll in You’re Not the Only One to take the first step towards resolving your infidelity situation in a way that’s truly right for you.
The rest of your life – beyond the drama and difficulties of your infidelity situation – is waiting for you!
LET’S DO THIS!
Enroll in You’re Not the Only One to take the first step towards resolving your infidelity situation in a way that’s truly right for you.
The rest of your life – beyond the drama and difficulties of your infidelity situation – is waiting for you!
LET’S DO THIS!
