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Marie Murphy, Ph.D.

Radically compassionate, non-judgmental infidelity coaching
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Marie Murphy, Ph.D.

Radically compassionate, non-judgmental infidelity coaching
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If you’re cheating on your partner, having an affair, or engaging in anything you think counts as infidelity, I can help you deal with your feelings, clarify what you want, and make decisions about what you’re going to do.

No shame, no blame, no judgments.

Infidelity situations can seem confusing – or downright impossible to figure out - for so many reasons.

You may feel like you’re caught between conflicting desires and priorities...

On the one hand…

Whatever you’re doing in the infidelity department may feel WONDERFUL.

starYou may feel more alive than you ever have before.

starYou may be having the best sex you’ve had in a long time – or the best sex you’ve EVER had.

starYou may feel more connected to your Person than you ever have to anyone else in the world.

starOr you may just – “just” – be having a lot of fun, experimenting with different experiences. 

All of that can be exciting, life-affirming, and amazing. In so many ways, and for so many reasons.

But on the other hand…

Engaging in infidelity can be STRESSFUL.

starThere’s the lying. The deception. All the work that goes into maintaining a double life.

starThere’s the fear of making choices that will hurt other people’s feelings or disrupt others’ lives.

starYou may feel guilty or ashamed about what you’re doing – and that usually feels pretty terrible!

starAnd even if you don’t feel guilty about cheating, there may be other aspects of engaging in infidelity that you don’t particularly care for.

Dealing with intense, conflicting emotions all of the time can be downright exhausting.

When we’re emotionally exhausted, it’s really hard to think clearly! So we often get stuck in cycles of emotional overwhelm, unproductive rumination, and paralysis through analysis. Not fun. 

To make matters worse, we live in a world in which infidelity is highly stigmatized.

Most of the “advice” for people who are engaging in infidelity is little more than thinly veiled judgement. Which simply is not helpful!  

On top of all of that, most of us have little – if any – experience dealing with the kinds of difficulties that often go along with infidelity situations! Few of us have the tools we need to address the unique predicaments that are often associated with infidelity!

As a result, you may be dealing with a very novel set of challenges – and you may not feel at all equipped to handle them.

It can be REALLY hard to cut through the confusion and make clear, confident choices about how you want to resolve your infidelity situation!

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To make matters worse, we live in a world in which infidelity is highly stigmatized.

Most of the “advice” for people who are engaging in infidelity is little more than thinly veiled judgement. Which simply is not helpful!  

On top of all of that, most of us have little – if any – experience dealing with the kinds of difficulties that often go along with infidelity situations! Few of us have the tools we need to address the unique predicaments that are often associated with infidelity!

As a result, you may be dealing with a very novel set of challenges – and you may not feel at all equipped to handle them.

It can be REALLY hard to cut through the confusion and make clear, confident choices about how you want to resolve your infidelity situation!

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Here’s what I want you to know:

Engaging in infidelity does not make you a terrible person.

starYou CAN resolve your infidelity situation in a way that you feel great about.

starYou can cut through confusion and uncertainty.

starYou can clarify what you want and go after it.

starYou can make big choices and changes without ruining your life, or anyone else’s.

And you don’t have to do any of this alone!

I can help you with all of this.

And you don’t have to do any of this alone!

I can help you with all of this.

The reward of resolving your infidelity situation in a way that’s truly right for you is that you get to have...

...a love life/sex life/romantic life/relationship life that you love… AND have enough bandwidth left over for all of the other important things in your life, too!

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I'm Dr. Marie Murphy

I’m a relationship coach with a Ph.D. in the sociology of sexuality.

I’ve helped hundreds of people resolve their infidelity situations in a way they’re satisfied with, and I can help you do this, too.

Dr. Marie Murphy

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Dr. Marie Murphy

I’m Dr. Marie Murphy

I’m a relationship coach with a Ph.D. in the sociology of sexuality.

I’ve helped hundreds of people resolve their infidelity situations in a way they’re satisfied with, and I can help you do this, too.

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Having someone with my experience and expertise help you deal with your infidelity situation can save you time, money, and a whole lot of sanity.

Instead of working with a generalist who may have good intentions but isn’t well-equipped to skilfully help you navigate your infidelity situation, invest in working with an expert who has the right expertise, experience, and the right orientation to infidelity - and provides the right combination of radical compassion and tough love.

My coaching is wise yet irreverent, systematic yet non-dogmatic, and totally different from what you’re going to get from any other professional who works in the infidelity space.

Even professionals who are theoretically willing to help people sort through their infidelity situations may be completely unaware of the extent to which they’ve absorbed society’s antipathy towards infidelity and people who cheat.

Thus, a lot of the “help” professionals have to offer is geared towards helping the cheater stop cheating. And this simply does not serve a lot of people’s needs.

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There are two ways you can have me as your coach:

One-on-One

PRIVATE COACHING | via Zoom

When we work together one-on-one, it’s all about you and the specifics of your unique infidelity situation. Our collaboration is consistent, rigorous, and intimate. The first step is to schedule an introductory coaching session with me. If you’re serious about resolving your infidelity situation – and changing your whole life for the better – let’s get to work.

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Self-Guided Course

You’re Not the Only One | online

In You’re Not the Only One, you will learn the tools and concepts you need to resolve your infidelity situation one step at a time, and I help you apply these powerful tools and concepts to the specifics of your own life. The teachings come in the form of videos and assignments, and are housed in an online portal that you can access 24/7, as soon as you enroll in the course. Once these tools are in your hands, change is yours to make. Let’s get started.

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“I was so relieved to find someone who treated me with such respect.”

“I felt very ashamed of what I was doing, and when I sought help from other professionals, I got the sense that they were very uncomfortable hearing the details of my story – even though they tried not to be overtly judgmental. I told Marie everything, and she made me feel so comfortable and at ease. Her compassion for me helped me find more compassion for myself. Once I shed the burden of shame and self-loathing, I was able to deal with my relationships in a much healthier way.”

S.H.

"She really showed openness to my situation, and didn’t compare, or judge, or push me towards any particular outcome."

"Working with Marie helped me see that social norms may not be the best guide for resolving my infidelity situation. She helped me open my eyes and ears to my own needs, and helped me think about other people’s needs in a different way. She really showed openness to my situation, and didn’t compare, or judge, or push me towards any particular outcome. She focused on creating a trusting environment that created hope as well as accountability. Initially, I had concerns about meeting with Marie via Zoom because I didn’t think Zoom meetings would be as effective as meeting in person, but Marie’s presence and engagement proved my concerns invalid. Marie was tuned into me and my particular situation and ready to dig in and work with me every time we spoke. My favorite Marie saying is, 'Two seemingly competing things can be true at once.' That really changed my view of the world."

T.C.

"Her approach really worked for finding solutions for emerging from what seemed like an endless state of limbo and confusion."

"Marie helped me make decisions about how to handle my infidelity situation during a time when I needed structure and guidance to move forward with my life. Her approach really worked for finding solutions for emerging from what seemed like an endless state of limbo and confusion. She is a kind, no-nonsense coach who brings SO much wisdom to every session!"

G.H.

I help people deal with all aspects and phases of infidelity situations, such as:

starDealing with the confusion, guilt, anxiety, and all of the other challenging feelings that often come with infidelity.

starDeciding which relationship(s) you want to pursue – and which you may want to end.

starDealing with the fear of making choices that will hurt other people’s feelings, or disrupt other people’s lives.

starDeciding whether or not to tell someone you’ve cheated on them.

starContending with the fear of making the “wrong decision” about your relationship(s) – and regretting it.

starHow to deal with getting caught cheating.

starConfronting your fears about what might happen if you were to leave a committed relationship… and completely change your family life.

starGrieving the end of a secret affair.

starThe process of breaking up with someone you care very much about – perhaps your spouse, perhaps your affair partner – in a manner that is compassionate and effective.

starRecommitting to your spouse/partner after you’ve cheated.

starDealing with other people’s opinions about your infidelity.

starEvaluating your relationship to monogamy.

starManaging the highs and lows of choosing to continue cheating.

starNavigating the transition from an affair relationship to a non-affair relationship.

starWeighing the financial cost of getting divorced against what you stand to gain from being able to live a life outside of your marriage.

starNavigating the aftermath of a messy affair.

star…and so much more.

I help people deal with all aspects and phases of infidelity situations, such as:

starDealing with the confusion, guilt, anxiety, and all of the other challenging feelings that often come with infidelity.

starDeciding which relationship(s) you want to pursue – and which you may want to end.

starDealing with the fear of making choices that will hurt other people’s feelings, or disrupt other people’s lives.

starDeciding whether or not to tell someone you’ve cheated on them.

starContending with the fear of making the “wrong decision” about your relationship(s) – and regretting it.

starHow to deal with getting caught cheating.

starConfronting your fears about what might happen if you were to leave a committed relationship… and completely change your family life.

starGrieving the end of a secret affair.

starThe process of breaking up with someone you care very much about – perhaps your spouse, perhaps your affair partner – in a manner that is compassionate and effective.

starRecommitting to your spouse/partner after you’ve cheated.

starDealing with other people’s opinions about your infidelity.

starEvaluating your relationship to monogamy.

starManaging the highs and lows of choosing to continue cheating.

starNavigating the transition from an affair relationship to a non-affair relationship.

starWeighing the financial cost of getting divorced against what you stand to gain from being able to live a life outside of your marriage.

starNavigating the aftermath of a messy affair.

star…and so much more.

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The rest of your life - beyond the drama and difficulty of your infidelity situation – is waiting for you!

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