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Marie Murphy, Ph.D.

I’ve helped hundreds of people successfully resolve their infidelity situations.

I can help you resolve your infidelity situation in a way that’s truly right for you, too.

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Marie Murphy, Ph.D.

I’ve helped hundreds of people successfully resolve their infidelity situations.

I can help you resolve your infidelity situation in a way that’s truly right for you, too.

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Let’s be frank:

Most of the “advice” out there for people who are cheating is total horseshit. Well-intentioned horseshit, perhaps, but horseshit all the same.

starI don’t subscribe to conventional ways of thinking about infidelity. I operate from a totally different paradigm.

starI don’t operate from the perspective that if you’re engaging in infidelity, you’re doing something bad and therefore you are bad, and you’d better stop what you’re doing right now.

starI believe that if you’re engaging in infidelity, you’re a human, doing a very human thing.

Let’s be frank:

Most of the “advice” out there for people who are cheating is total horseshit. Well-intentioned horseshit, perhaps, but horseshit all the same.

starI don’t subscribe to conventional ways of thinking about infidelity. I operate from a totally different paradigm.

starI don’t operate from the perspective that if you’re engaging in infidelity, you’re doing something bad and therefore you are bad, and you’d better stop what you’re doing right now.

starI believe that if you’re engaging in infidelity, you’re a human, doing a very human thing.

 I understand that there are a lot of REALLY legitimate reasons why people engage in infidelity.

I also know that if you’re engaging in infidelity, you might want to make some changes.

starMaybe you want to find a way to stop doing whatever you’re doing that counts as infidelity.

starOr maybe you want to keep on doing whatever you’re doing – but you want to think about what you’re doing differently, and feel better about what you’re doing.

starOr maybe you don’t know what you want – but you know you want SOMETHING to change.

I understand that there are a lot of REALLY legitimate reasons why people engage in infidelity.

I also know that if you’re engaging in infidelity, you might want to make some changes.

starMaybe you want to find a way to stop doing whatever you’re doing that counts as infidelity.

starOr maybe you want to keep on doing whatever you’re doing – but you want to think about what you’re doing differently, and feel better about what you’re doing.

starOr maybe you don’t know what you want – but you know you want SOMETHING to change.

I’m here to help you figure out what you want to do about your infidelity situation, and then help you do those things.

No matter what your priorities are, no matter what you’re doing or what you have been doing, I give you guidance and support that respects the fullness of your humanity, and the complexity of your situation.

My role is to help you figure out what’s truly right for you – not to shove prescriptive advice down your throat, or tell you what you should do or have to do. 

I’m here to help you figure out what you want to do about your infidelity situation, and then help you do those things.

No matter what your priorities are, no matter what you’re doing or what you have been doing, I give you guidance and support that respects the fullness of your humanity, and the complexity of your situation.

My role is to help you figure out what’s truly right for you – not to shove prescriptive advice down your throat, or tell you what you should do or have to do. 

The coaching I provide is wise, irreverent, systematic yet non-dogmatic, and highly specific to your individual needs.

When you work with me, you can rest assured that you’re working with a seasoned specialist. Although I can’t say I’ve heard it all – humans are far too diverse and interesting for any one person to have ever heard it ALL – I’ve heard quite a lot.

You can trust that:

aI’m not going to be shocked or thrown off by anything you tell me, and

bYes, I probably have seen situations very similar to yours before. Maybe even ten times already this week.

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The coaching I provide is wise, irreverent, systematic yet non-dogmatic, and highly specific to your individual needs.

When you work with me, you can rest assured that you’re working with a seasoned specialist. Although I can’t say I’ve heard it all – humans are far too diverse and interesting for any one person to have ever heard it ALL – I’ve heard quite a lot.

You can trust that

aI’m not going to be shocked or thrown off by anything you tell me, and

bYes, I probably have seen situations very similar to yours before. Maybe even ten times already this week.

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“Working with her is the most useful investment you can make to define and move towards your most authentic life. "

"Ten coaching sessions with Marie likely saved me five to ten years of rumination and turmoil. Working with her is the most useful investment you can make to define and move towards your most authentic life.

Each coaching session yielded useful new perspectives on habitual thinking. New modes of thinking aided in breaking the hamster wheel of indecision, which led to taking definitive steps, followed by then allowing the torrent of emotion without perpetually catastrophizing – and this was the way out of the turmoil associated with my infidelity situation. The most enjoyable part of coaching was those profound "aha!” moments when I found new freedom by realizing that old thought patterns were not as true as they seemed to be.

Ultimately, I changed my relationship with my ability to make decisions for MY life. I decided to stay with my husband (after I had an affair) and be brutally real about who I am and what I need. We have found truer happiness together than we’ve ever experienced before. Having a coach with whom I could process my infidelity situation in safety was priceless."

B.C.

"I really enjoyed how open-minded she is - she didn't view things as 'good or bad,' and it wasn't a case of her telling me that I have done something bad."

"Marie was an open-minded, non-judgmental coach who had no preconceived ideas of what the outcome of my affair should be. She didn’t force an agenda on me, or try to force me to fit into societal norms.

Her focus was on letting me work out what I wanted out of the situation and making my decision consciously (whatever that decision might be) which helped me take ownership of what was happening, and not perpetuate a victim mentality.

I really enjoyed how open-minded she is - she didn't view things as 'good or bad,' and it wasn't a case of her telling me that I have done something bad and ‘you can never break up a marriage as it is a sanctuary.’ I felt that she created a safe space where I was able to be completely honest with no fear of judgment which allowed me to vocalise and therefore acknowledge things that I was probably avoiding."

Z.Y.

"The best thing that people can have available is non-judgmental help."

"Working with Marie was incredible. She talks about your situation in terms that do not make you feel judged or ashamed. She treats you like a human who needs help. Infidelity is so stigmatized, which is why no one ever wants to talk about it, but it happens and when it does, the best thing that people can have available is non-judgmental help.

Most people who find themselves in this situation are not bad people, they are simply humans looking for something they can't seem to find where they are. Marie's work changes lives in ways that are profound, but not shared because of the stigma around this issue. That should end and people should understand that good people end up in these situations, and all they need is an ear to hear them without judgment or shame. No one would recommend that someone go out and cheat on a significant other, but if it happens, that person needs understanding.

We give people in prison second chances, but people who cheat are put into their own prisons that are very hard to break free from because of the way cheating is viewed."

E.H.

My approach to infidelity coaching is informed by a unique combination of experiences and perspectives, including but not limited to the following:

If you want to learn more about me, you can read this interview, or listen to these podcast episodes:

Compassionate Approach To Infidelity – Exclusive Interview With Dr. Marie Murphy

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If you want to learn more about me, you can read this interview, or listen to these podcast episodes:

Compassionate Approach To Infidelity – Exclusive Interview With Dr. Marie Murphy

4 min read

TUNE IN NOW:

I help people deal with all aspects and phases of infidelity situations, such as:

starDealing with the confusion, guilt, anxiety, and all of the other challenging feelings that often come with infidelity.

starDeciding which relationship(s) you want to pursue – and which you may want to end.

starDealing with the fear of making choices that will hurt other people’s feelings, or disrupt other people’s lives.

starDeciding whether or not to tell someone you’ve cheated on them.

starContending with the fear of making the “wrong decision” about your relationship(s) – and regretting it.

starHow to deal with getting caught cheating.

starConfronting your fears about what might happen if you were to leave a committed relationship… and completely change your family life.

starGrieving the end of a secret affair.

starThe process of breaking up with someone you care very much about – perhaps your spouse, perhaps your affair partner – in a manner that is compassionate and effective.

starRecommitting to your spouse/partner after you’ve cheated.

starDealing with other people’s opinions about your infidelity.

starEvaluating your relationship to monogamy.

starManaging the highs and lows of choosing to continue cheating.

starNavigating the transition from an affair relationship to a non-affair relationship.

starWeighing the financial cost of getting divorced against what you stand to gain from being able to live a life outside of your marriage.

starNavigating the aftermath of a messy affair.

star…and so much more.

I help people deal with all aspects and phases of infidelity situations, such as:

starDealing with the confusion, guilt, anxiety, and all of the other challenging feelings that often come with infidelity.

starDeciding which relationship(s) you want to pursue – and which you may want to end.

starDealing with the fear of making choices that will hurt other people’s feelings, or disrupt other people’s lives.

starDeciding whether or not to tell someone you’ve cheated on them.

starContending with the fear of making the “wrong decision” about your relationship(s) – and regretting it.

starHow to deal with getting caught cheating.

starConfronting your fears about what might happen if you were to leave a committed relationship… and completely change your family life.

starGrieving the end of a secret affair.

starThe process of breaking up with someone you care very much about – perhaps your spouse, perhaps your affair partner – in a manner that is compassionate and effective.

starRecommitting to your spouse/partner after you’ve cheated.

starDealing with other people’s opinions about your infidelity.

starEvaluating your relationship to monogamy.

starManaging the highs and lows of choosing to continue cheating.

starNavigating the transition from an affair relationship to a non-affair relationship.

starWeighing the financial cost of getting divorced against what you stand to gain from being able to live a life outside of your marriage.

starNavigating the aftermath of a messy affair.

star…and so much more.

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