128: Cultivating Clarity and Certainty

Last week, Dr. Marie Murphy discussed the reality of seeking advice from other people, and why it’s significantly more beneficial to cultivate clarity and certainty for yourself. Today, she’s discussing a time in her life when she didn’t take this advice for herself, and instead of creating clarity and certainty, she cultivated total unintentional nonsense and uncertainty.

If you think you’re confused about major questions in your life and your infidelity situation and you can’t possibly answer them for yourself, this is the cautionary tale you need to hear. The story doesn’t have to do with infidelity per se, but the level of mental conflict and confusion will be more than relatable.

Tune in this week to discover the value of cultivating clarity and certainty for yourself. You’ll hear a story that illustrates this point, and why changing your thoughts based on other people’s opinions or societal norms around your infidelity situation will never produce the certainty and clarity you’re seeking.

If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy by clicking here!

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

• A story from Dr. Marie Murphy’s life of seeking advice from others instead of creating clarity and certainty for herself.

• The possible problems with drinking the Kool-Aid, so to speak, and questioning your long-held certainties.

• Why you can never cultivate real clarity and certainty by following other people’s or society’s opinions and norms.

• How to see where you’re trying to talk yourself out of something you really want or don’t want.

• Why your reasons for wanting or not wanting something are always more nuanced and considered than anybody else’s advice.

• The difference between really not knowing something versus telling yourself you don’t know something.

• How to call yourself out, point out your own nonsense, and organize your thoughts in a more useful way. 

Listen to the Full Episode:

Featured on the Show:

• Schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy to begin the process of resolving your infidelity situation in a way that's truly right for you.

• 127: The Limits of Other People‘s Advice

• Erik Erikson’s 8 Stages of Psychological Development

• Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed by Meghan Daum