124: Dealing with Other People’s Discomfort (Part 2)

Jan 17, 2023

For a lot of people, seeing someone they care about feeling uncomfortable emotions can lead to unbearably uncomfortable emotions for themselves. This is made even worse when they believe they’re the cause of someone else’s discomfort. This is why a lot of people spend an incredible amount of time and energy trying not to make other people feel bad, so to speak.

If you’re doing everything you can to make choices you think will make other people happy, avoiding anything that might cause someone else discomfort, this episode is for you. Whether you realize you’re doing it or not, infidelity situations have the potential to bring out this tendency in any human being, but if you want to make the decisions that are right for you, you need to start dealing with the idea that some people probably aren’t going to like it.

Discomfort and unpleasant emotions are naturally occurring things, and they don’t need to be considered problematic. So, tune in this week to discover how to understand your own discomfort, and begin trusting that other people can handle their uncomfortable emotions, so you can make decisions about your affair situation based on what you want instead of trying to keep everybody happy.

If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy by clicking here!

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why emotions are just vibrations in people’s bodies, and what that looks like.

  • How human beings have collectively bought into the idea that negative emotions are a fundamental problem.

  • Why your decisions might be the occasion of other people’s feelings, but never the direct cause.

  • A new way to relate to your uncomfortable emotions and allow those feelings.

  • Why, when you’re willing to accept your own discomfort as inevitable, it’s easier to trust that others can handle their own uncomfortable emotions.

  • How to stop compromising on the things that are important to you in an attempt to make other people feel comfortable.

  • A set of practices you can use when you’re present with someone who is experiencing discomfort and you are the occasion of their emotions. 

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