113: Wanting Something and Not Having It Yet

Nov 01, 2022

The topic of allowing yourself to want what you want has come up on the podcast before, But Dr. Marie Murphy is taking this understanding of your desires even deeper on today’s episode. As a human, it’s natural to freak out when you notice desire coming up, especially if that desire can’t be fulfilled right away. It can feel like you’re setting yourself up for uncertainty, impatience, and frustration.

By allowing yourself to want something or someone, contending with the experience of not getting what you want is inevitable. So, how do you deal with the ache of deeply wanting something and not having it yet? And why could this be the key to getting the result you truly want in your infidelity situation?

Tune in this week to discover how to start getting clear on the outcome you want for your infidelity situation, while dealing with the intense feelings of not having it yet. Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you how to tolerate the discomfort of your unmet desire, and why being in a state of desire without desperation will allow you tenaciously take action in the service of what you really want in life.

If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with me by clicking here!


What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • How so many people think of having an unresolved desire as a problem.

  • Why faith and trust in going after what you desire can only happen when you’re okay with not having what you want.

  • The difference between giving up on a desire because you can’t stand not having it, versus deciding you really don’t want to pursue that thing.

  • Why being okay with not having something is actually the key to getting it.

  • What this situation looks like in an infidelity situation.

  • How to live with the inherent uncertainty of wanting something and not having it, and take action in the service of what you want, even though there are no guaranteed outcomes.

  • What changes when you can want something without being attached to the idea that you must have it.

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