A: All 1:1 sessions are held via Zoom and are completely confidential.

A: When you are my client, I teach you tools and concepts that I cannot possibly teach in podcast episodes – and I help you APPLY those tools and concepts to your own life.

Passively receiving information by listening to a podcast episode can be great. Learning how to actively make use of powerful tools and concepts is even better – and that’s what becomes possible when we collaborate. Also, when we work together one-on-one, I’m able to give you very specific guidance that is tailored to your unique situation, and your unique needs.

A: No. I’m not going to tell you that you have to do anything. I help you see where you have choices in life, and help you make decisions you are satisfied with. My job is to help you figure out how you want to live out your love life – not to tell you how you should live out your love life.

A: No! I work with people in all kinds of infidelity situations. Some of my clients are married, some are in committed monogamous relationships – and some are not. Some of my clients are the “other person” in somebody else’s infidelity situation.

My clients come from diverse backgrounds, and have diverse identities and relationship situations. I work with people of all genders, all sexual orientations, and many different relationship types. As long as you think of what you are doing as a form of infidelity, I’m here to help you.

A: Yes. When you work with me, it’s all about you. And this is important because to a great extent, all of our relationship issues are primarily about us. If we’re going to do anything differently in our relationships, we have to get our own thoughts and feelings in order before we can change the way we interact with our partner, or participate in the relationship… and that requires a focus on what’s going on with ourselves as individuals. Couples’ counseling usually doesn’t provide the opportunity for that.

A: I’m always happy to work with affair couples, but when I do, I work with each member of the couple individually. As mentioned above, all of our relationship issues are primarily about us. When we take responsibility for our own stuff – our own thinking, feeling, and actions - we’re better able to engage in our relationships in ways we feel great about.

A: Yes. Some of my clients come to the conscious decision that they want to stay in their committed relationship, and keep cheating, and I believe that it’s your prerogative to make that choice. I can help you deal with the emotional ups and downs that can come with long-term infidelity – and help you make strategic choices about how to manage the practical details of your affairs.

A: I am 100% respectful of your religious beliefs, and I’ve worked with clients who hail from a variety of religious traditions and adhere to their religious beliefs to varying degrees. So rest assured that I am happy to work with you, whatever religious beliefs (or lack thereof) you bring to the table. However, if you are looking for a coach who shares your specific religious beliefs, I’m probably not that person.

A:A: I do not accept health insurance, and most insurance plans do not cover coaching. However, some clients have successfully used their HSA "credit cards" to pay for my services.  Whether or not this works out for you personally is between you and your health insurance company.

A: I do not.  In my experience, a minimum of 10 sessions are necessary to help you make satisfying progress in your infidelity situation.  I ask people to commit to this number of sessions in order to ensure that our work together is productive and successful. 

If you are reluctant to commit to ten sessions, you can purchase my self-guided course, You’re Not the Only One, OR you can schedule an introductory coaching session with me and use it to ask me a very specific, narrowly defined question (or two).  More on that option below…

A: Introductory coaching sessions tend to go in one of two ways.

More often than not, clients come to the introductory session ready to begin the process of getting sustained help with resolving their infidelity situation.  In these cases, the introductory session offers an opportunity for the client to tell their story, and for me to start to get a sense of where the client’s opportunities and challenges lie – and how we can begin to address them more effectively by working together.  The introductory session is usually the beginning of a longer-term coaching arrangement… AND it’s an opportunity for you to experience catharsis, relief, and begin to see that things can and will get better!     

However, if you feel like you have a pretty good handle on your infidelity situation, but you want my help thinking through one or two specific, narrowly defined questions, we can probably address those questions in a conclusive, satisfying way during a 75-minute session.  (“What should I do about all of this?” is NOT a specific, narrowly defined question!) 

A: If we finish your package of ten sessions and you feel like your work with me is complete, I’ll wish you well and send you on your way!  On the other hand, if our work together is going well, and you’d like to continue working with me for more than ten sessions, you absolutely can.

For some folks, ten sessions with me is just the right amount of help.  Other folks continue working with me after their initial ten sessions are completed.  Sometimes that’s because their infidelity situation requires more time and coaching to resolve.  And sometimes that’s because they find that continuing to work with me is immensely beneficial, even if their infidelity situation has been dealt with to their satisfaction.