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Dr. Marie Murphy is a highly sought-after relationship coach with over 20 years of experience helping people navigate the intimate details of their sexual and romantic lives.

Marie has a Ph.D. in the sociology of sexuality, and uses her expertise to help men who are having affairs decide what they want, and what they’re going to do about it.  


Dr. Murphy offers one-on-one coaching tailored to the client’s specific needs via Zoom in a shame-free, blame-free environment. Her clients love that she is easy to confide in, completely unshockable, totally non-judgmental, and full of wise, pragmatic guidance.

Marie is the host of the podcast, “Your Secret is Safe with Me: Non-judgmental talk about infidelity with Dr. Marie Murphy.” Her website is, and she publishes advice on how to deal with having an affair via her blog here, as well as on Medium and LinkedIn.  


Dr. Murphy received her B.A. in sociology and human sexuality studies from San Francisco State University, and her Ph.D. in the sociology of sexuality from the University of California, San Diego. 


Marie lives in San Francisco with her spouse and their West Highland White Terrier.  She’s a proud doggie mama, devoted yogi and meditator, and lover of great food and great fiction.


Marie’s areas of expertise include: 


  • Coaching cheaters/dealing with an active affair

    • Dealing with shame, blame, and other difficult emotions

    • Clarifying what you want

    • Making decisions that are right for you


  • Dealing with your partner’s infidelity

    • Learning how to digest your pain, anger, hurt – and all of the other difficult emotions - without entering victim-mode

    • Making decisions about how to move forward in the relationship


  • Creating more happiness and satisfaction in romantic relationships

    • What everyone can do to make their relationship better… without your partner having to change a thing

    • What to do when your partner drives you nuts

    • What to do when your relationship seems dull or stagnant


  • Developing a better relationship with yourself (i.e., the most important thing in the world)

    • Learning how to like yourself and love yourself

    • Forgiving yourself for everything you think you’ve done wrong

    • Creating your own happiness… no matter what your partner (or anyone else) does or doesn’t do

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Marie Murphy takes select interviews with media & podcast partners.

Click here to schedule a pre-interview appointment.


You can select and download pictures of Marie here.

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