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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

138: Telling a New Partner About Your History with Infidelity

Updated: Apr 28

Your Secret Is Safe With Me with Dr. Marie Murphy | Privately Grieving the End of an Affair

You get to decide what you share about yourself with other people. If you have stories of life experiences, whether those stories have a place in the present is up to you. You aren’t wedded to your past, so if you’re considering telling a new partner about your history with infidelity, listen to this episode first to make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons.

Even if you decide to tell your new partner about your past infidelity, you don’t have to subscribe to the idea that you’re a bad person, apologize for it, excuse yourself, or attempt to redeem yourself. Some people are going to react from the belief that cheating is objectively bad, so Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you how to work with that aspect of social reality too.

Tune in this week to decide what you want to do if you’re feeling any pressure to disclose your history of infidelity to a new partner. Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing the work you need to do with yourself before you start disclosing your past infidelity to someone you’re dating, and how to see the end of a past relationship as something other than an indication that you’re horribly flawed as a human.

If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy by clicking here!


What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • How people often think, because they’ve done certain things in the past, they have to disclose it to a new partner.

  • Why it’s up to you to decide whether or not you want to share your past infidelity with a new partner.

  • How some people believe cheating is objectively wrong and makes you a bad person, but you don’t have to buy into that idea.

  • The work you have to do with yourself before you start disclosing certain aspects of your past with people you’re dating.

  • How to take charge of what the end of a relationship means to you and about you.

  • Ways to gain perspective of your past infidelity and how to decide on what you want to do moving forward.

  • How to approach a conversation about your history with infidelity, if that’s what you decide to do.

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