What it's like to work with me
Updated: May 14
What exactly do I do?
I help people work through situations that have to do with love, relationships, and sexuality. These elements of our lives can bring us great joy, but they can also be the source of confusion, conflict, pain, shame, and all sorts of other challenging stuff.
In the most general terms, my job is to help you get clarity on where you are and where you want to go, and help you take the steps to get there. I help you develop a whole new relationship to the things that you find difficult.
In a way, my work with clients is incredibly simple. We have regular conversations via Zoom (or Skype or phone). During these conversations, I ask lots of questions, designed to help you interrupt your habitual patterns of thought and feeling and action. I teach you tools that help you break limiting habits and develop new ways of thinking, feeling, and acting.
We talk about the specifics of your current situation, or the main challenge(s) in your life. We talk about your past, and your hopes for the future. I teach you how to see your life in an entirely new way, and how to open up new possibilities for the future.
The coaching I offer is highly personalized to your to your specific situation and needs. I recognize that we’re all different, and I’m deeply attuned to your unique attributes, circumstances, and goals. And at the same time, there are some basic concepts and tools I teach nearly everyone I work with. Tools we all need to live a happier, more fulfilling life. Tools we all need to engage in positive relationships with other people. Tools we all need to get the most out of the experience of our existence.
In some respects, my approach is very simple, but it’s also deep, profound work that requires investment and commitment. When I work with new clients, our initial engagement is at least four weeks of continuous coaching, and most clients choose to work with me for a longer period of time. Making meaningful changes in our lives requires the right help and support (that's what I provide), the right amount of effort (you do that part), and continuity and momentum (we create this together).