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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

85: Past vs. Future Focus

Updated: Nov 16, 2022

Melissa Hites

Dr. Marie Murphy is a relationship coach specializing in helping people who are having affairs make decisions on how to move forward — without judgment. She has a Ph.D. in sociology with an emphasis in sexuality from the University of California, San Diego, and has been teaching sex education since her high school years. Dr. Murphy is also a yoga instructor and has previously taught meditation.

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

  • Dr. Marie Murphy explains how and why people assign meaning to past experiences

  • Why you should be careful about fetishizing the past

  • Is focusing on the past helping you create what you want for the future?

  • Dr. Murphy describes the difficulty of contemplating a future that is different and unfamiliar

  • Why doing what is best for you won’t always be accepted by others

  • What resources are available to help you create the future you desire?

In this episode…

Do you feel like you’re constantly pledging allegiance to your past? If you’re stuck in the cycle of recycling and analyzing your past experiences, you may not be sure how to live the way you want to in the present and future. So, how can you engage with the past more effectively in order to create the future that you desire?

According to Dr. Marie Murphy, the past may seem stable and the future unpredictable. But, as Dr. Murphy says, if you focus too much on what went wrong in the past, it can negatively impact your present — and your future. Simply wishing won’t help; choosing and learning how to envision the future you want to create may seem like a daunting task, but Dr. Murphy is here to help you clarify your vision.

Join Dr. Marie Murphy for this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me as she discusses how to examine your past in neutral terms to create a future you desire for your love life. Listen as Dr. Murphy talks about the pitfalls of fetishizing the past, why envisioning a different future can feel unfamiliar and threatening, and how to gain control over your narrative and create the future you want to experience.

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This episode is brought to you by Marie Murphy Ph.D. Relationship Coaching.

Dr. Marie Murphy provides shame-free, blame-free, and non-judgmental relationship coaching. She draws from different philosophical traditions and approaches in order to better understand the human condition and the different types of professional assistance that can be germane to people in complicated relationship situations.

To learn more about her and her relationship coaching practice, visit today and schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy to begin the process of resolving your infidelity situation in a way that's truly right for you.

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