top of page
  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

110: What Do You Owe Someone You’ve Cheated On?

Updated: Nov 16, 2022

Your Secret Is Safe With Me with Dr. Marie Murphy | Is Monogamy (Un)Natural?

Let’s say you’re in a committed relationship and you’ve done something that counts as cheating in the context of your relationship, and your partner knows about it. A lot of people who are in this kind of situation find themselves grappling with questions about what they owe their partner, or what they owe the relationship as a result of their cheating.

There is indeed something you might owe someone you’ve cheated on. However, if you think you need to make your partner feel better, answer their questions, share your thoughts, right your wrongs, agree to protocols to reestablish trust, and suffer like your partner is suffering, what Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing today might surprise you.

Tune in this week to discover what you might or might not owe somebody you’ve cheated on. You’ll learn a technique for examining your beliefs about the choices you’ve made, and decide how you actually want to act in these situations, regardless of what your partner believes they’re owed.

If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with me by clicking here!


What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why it’s so common for people to believe they owe their partner something after they’ve cheated.

  • Some of the things people believe they owe their partner as a result of their cheating.

  • Why we are never the cause of other people’s feelings, even in infidelity situations.

  • How the language used around infidelity is heavily loaded and generally has negative connotations.

  • Why just because your partner, your friends, your couple’s therapist, or whoever told you what you should do, doesn’t mean you have to.

  • How to step back and examine your operating assumptions about what you owe your partner as a result of your cheating.

  • Why you can care about and love your partner without taking it upon yourself to fix their feelings.

  • The one and only thing you actually owe the person you’ve cheated on.

Listen to the Full Episode:

Featured on the Show:

Enjoy the Show?

bottom of page