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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

117: Jealousy

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Jealousy occurs within the context of any relationship. However, when you’re shifting from an affair into a non-affair relationship, it’s a particularly common issue. It’s an emotion that many people don’t like to feel, and the advice out there about dealing with jealousy, especially around infidelity, leave a lot to be desired and can actually make jealousy harder to handle.

However, Dr. Marie Murphy’s perspective is that it is most appropriate and helpful to regard jealousy as an emotion, a sensation in your body generated by your thoughts. So, your partner talking to some attractive person at a party doesn’t make you jealous. Your thoughts about this situation are what create jealousy.

Tune in this week because Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing how jealousy shows up in a relationship that has transitioned from an affair into a non-affair relationship. You’ll learn the thoughts that lead people to believe their partner definitely will cheat on them, and why you get to choose how you approach the idea of your partner cheating, whether you want to accept it and enjoy the relationship anyway, or choose something else.

If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy by clicking here!


What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why jealousy is just a normal human emotion created by your thoughts, and why complicating jealousy doesn’t help you understand it.

  • The kinds of thoughts that lead to feelings of jealousy in a relationship.

  • Why jealousy isn’t necessarily bad, but actions that come from jealousy definitely can be.

  • How Dr. Marie Murphy sees jealousy arising in non-affair relationships that have transitioned from an affair.

  • Why, whether or not your partner has cheated before, there is always a chance your partner will cheat, and it isn’t more likely in any given circumstance.

  • How your jealousy might be impacting your ability to create the kind of relationship you want to have.

  • Some ways to decide on the way you want to approach the possibility of cheating occurring, regardless of your partner’s history or the origin of your relationship.

  • How not to deal with jealousy in your relationship.

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