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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

107: Is Monogamy (Un)Natural?

Updated: Nov 16, 2022

Your Secret Is Safe With Me with Dr. Marie Murphy | Is Monogamy (Un)Natural?

Often, when people who have been in monogamous relationships for their entire adult lives find themselves in infidelity situations, they start asking questions about monogamy like, “Is monogamy natural or unnatural?” This seems on the surface like a good question to ask yourself, but there’s a little more to it.

There is so much messaging about monogamy being natural, and therefore what is expected of you. Of course, there is a counterargument that monogamy is unnatural and it’s a construct that has been forced upon society. A lot of people are told that monogamy is the only natural way to live, only to find themselves wanting to try something new. This is why asking the right questions about monogamy really does matter.

Tune in this week because Dr. Marie Murphy is unpacking the question, “Is monogamy natural or unnatural?” Marie is diving deep into what natural even means, the meaning that gets applied to the word natural, and why it only gets more complicated when you try to bring the natural versus unnatural debate to how you think about your relationships, monogamy, and what you really want in your sexual and romantic life.

If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with me by clicking here!


What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • How biologically determining what’s “natural” isn’t as simple as you might think.

  • The societal messaging we receive around what is “natural” and expected of us as humans.

  • Some of the things we do as humans that are considered “unnatural” that we don’t think twice about.

  • Why what counts as monogamy, exclusivity, or cheating varies from person to person.

  • The most important questions for you to consider when deciding whether or not you want to be monogamous or not.

  • Why monogamy doesn’t need to be monotony, and your relationship doesn’t need to be monogamous.

  • How to decide, with or without your partner, what you want your relationship to look like.

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