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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

20: If You've Cheated on Your Partner, Do You Have to Tell Them?

Updated: Nov 16, 2022

Dr. Marie Murphy

Dr. Marie Murphy is a Relationship Coach, specializing in helping people who are having affairs make decisions on how to move forward—without judgment. She has a Ph.D. in Sociology with an emphasis in Sexuality from the University of California, San Diego, and has been teaching sex education since her high school years. Dr. Murphy is also a yoga instructor and has previously taught meditation.

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

  • Dr. Marie Murphy answers the question: do you have to tell your partner that you’ve cheated?

  • The first two things to consider when deciding whether or not to tell your partner about your infidelity

  • How to make a choice that’s right for you based on what you know, what you think, and what you want—right now

  • Dr. Murphy shares some of the red flags to look out for when making your decision

  • What does it mean to tell the truth?

  • Dr. Murphy’s recommendations for what to do if you decide to tell your partner that you’ve cheated

In this episode…

Here’s a tricky question: should you tell your partner if you’ve cheated on them? While many people believe that there is a simple “yes” or “no” answer, this question may be a bit more complicated than we think.

Disclosing your infidelity to your partner isn’t a matter-of-fact situation. As Dr. Marie Murphy says, you’re not obligated to tell anyone about your affair—whether it was a one-time thing or a long-term relationship. But, every action has a consequence, so regardless of what you decide to do, it’s important to carefully consider your honest wants and needs.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about whether or not you need to tell your partner about your infidelity. She shares the first two things to consider when making a decision, the red flags to look out for in your decision-making process, and the various complexities of telling the truth. Plus, Dr. Murphy dives into her recommendations if you do decide to tell your partner that you’ve cheated. Stay tuned!

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