26: Having an Affair to Save a Marriage
Updated: Nov 15, 2022
Janine is a 56-year-old wife and mother who loves her family, is committed to her marriage, and is currently having an affair. She has a master’s degree in Education and works in public education. Janine takes pride in being politically active and has volunteered for multiple presidential campaigns, starting with Bill Clinton’s.
Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:
Janine shares some backstory on her life, her marriage, and why she decided to have an affair
Janine describes her feelings leading up to the affair and explains how she approached the concept with her husband
What is it like to look for a partner on Ashley Madison?
Janine explains how politics played a role in her emotional management strategy
How having an affair helped Janine achieve a happier home, marriage, and self
Janine shares her thoughts about monogamy and offers some important takeaways for any relationship—affair or not
In this episode…
All relationships change over time, but how often do you renegotiate the rules surrounding them? What happens when a long and happy marriage becomes sexless? Do you have options beyond ending the marriage or compromising your needs?
After spending time in therapy with her husband trying to deal with their differing sex drives, Janine came up with a solution. Instead of throwing away her entire marriage over one missing part, she decided to outsource that one aspect to save the rest. Now, she is in a satisfying affair and her marriage is even happier than before.
Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me as she sits down with Janine to discuss how having an affair helped save her marriage. Janine explains why she decided to have an affair and how she navigated an agreement with her husband. She also shares what it’s like to seek out a partner using Ashley Madison, the strategies she deploys for managing her emotions, and what she’s learned about relationships and herself along the way. Stay tuned!
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