102: You Got Caught Cheating
Updated: Aug 22
Sometimes, people get caught cheating and they ask, “How can I reverse course and undo the damage?” Getting confronted by a partner who knows you’re cheating isn’t an experience many people find fun. But here’s the deal. When you get caught, you’re caught. That is now your reality, and wishing it were otherwise isn’t going to help you deal with it.
Wringing your hands and thinking about what you could have done differently to prevent this turn of events is not going to make the situation go away. However, even though you can’t change the past, Dr. Marie Murphy is here to help you deal with something you do have control over: your next move.
Tune in this week for some non-judgmental advice if you’ve been caught in the act of cheating, or been presented with irrefutable evidence of your cheating. Dr. Marie Murphy is focusing on your feelings about getting caught, dealing with your partner’s response to what’s going on, and how to decide on the way you want to frame your story - what you want to disclose, and thinking carefully about what you want to do next.
If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with me by clicking here!
What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
Why humans tend to react with defensiveness, fear, anger, shame, and other knee-jerk reactions when confronted.
The importance of taking a pause and being present with your intense emotions before you react to this uncomfortable situation.
The problem with making rash promises in the heat of the moment in an effort to reduce your discomfort and placate your partner.
How to deal with the possible range of reactions you might get from your partner when they confront you about your cheating.
Why, even though you’re the one that cheated, you don't have to tolerate any responses from your partner that you consider extreme.
How to set aside your shame and take on a leadership role in this scenario, so you can decide how you want to make the situation better.
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