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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

137: If You Don’t Feel Guilty About Cheating

Your Secret Is Safe With Me with Dr. Marie Murphy | Privately Grieving the End of an Affair

Sometimes people who have been engaging in infidelity say, “I don’t actually feel guilty about cheating,” as if they’re confessing something bad. If this sounds familiar, you might be thinking there’s something wrong with you, that you’re a narcissist, a sociopath, or a psychopath. However, if you don’t feel guilty about cheating, that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, and thinking so isn’t actually helpful.

The language we use to talk about infidelity is implicitly laden with negative connotations. Cheating (or any behavior that you think counts as infidelity) is a neutral behavior until you give it meaning. Obviously, this is a complex subject, so Dr. Marie Murphy is diving into all of it in this week’s episode.

Tune in this week to discover how to deal with the idea that there’s something wrong with you because you don’t feel guilty about cheating. Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing why you always have the option of changing what you think a particular behavior means, and why guilt isn’t an effective motivator for doing something about your infidelity situation. She’s sharing an exercise to start clarifying your thoughts and feelings about your cheating so you can decide how you want to deal with your situation.

If you’re ready to take this topic deeper in a confidential and compassionate environment, you can schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy by clicking here!


What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why not feeling guilty doesn’t mean there’s anything “wrong” with you.

  • Where the connotations that we attach to cheating and infidelity come from.

  • Why guilt around your infidelity situation won’t help you resolve it, if that’s what you want to do.

  • Some of the justifications you may have for not feeling guilty about your infidelity, and what you can learn from them.

  • An exercise you can try, in the absence of guilt, to get clear on your thoughts and feelings about your cheating.

  • How to see your response-ability in your infidelity situation, whatever you’re currently feeling about it.

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