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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

89: Does Having an Affair Doom Your Marriage to Failure?

Updated: Nov 16, 2022

Melissa Hites

Dr. Marie Murphy is a Relationship Coach, specializing in helping people who are having affairs make decisions on how to move forward — without judgment. She has a Ph.D. in Sociology with an emphasis in Sexuality from the University of California, San Diego, and has been teaching sex education since her high school years. Dr. Murphy is also a yoga instructor and has previously taught meditation.

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

  • Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the common fears that surround staying married after having a secret affair

  • The importance of questioning other people’s fear-based advice about infidelity

  • Why you get to decide if you deserve love and happiness after your affair

  • Dr. Murphy explains why keeping a secret is not inherently bad and what trust really means

  • How to avoid letting your history of infidelity poison your marriage

  • Dr. Murphy talks about the “think, feel, act” cycle and understanding that you have the capacity to change

In this episode…

If you’ve had an affair that’s now ended, you may be worried about what this secret will mean for the future of your marriage. Does keeping your cheating a secret doom your marriage to failure? Do you still deserve love and happiness after your infidelity? Will your marriage still have trust?

According to Dr. Marie Murphy, these are all common fears — but none of them are true unless you believe they are. As she says, the future of your marriage depends on what you choose to focus on after your affair has ended. If you believe you’ve doomed your marriage to failure because you cheated, then this may become a reality. But, if you instead focus on shifting your mindset and moving forward, you can cultivate a marriage of love, trust, and happiness.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy addresses the common fears you may have after your secret affair has ended. Dr. Murphy explains why you are in control of whether or not your infidelity poisons your marriage and how to shift your mindset from fear to growth. She also breaks down the “think, feel, act” cycle and shares her advice for moving forward with your marriage.

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This episode is brought to you by Marie Murphy Ph.D. Relationship Coaching.

Dr. Marie Murphy provides shame-free, blame-free, and non-judgmental relationship coaching. She draws from different philosophical traditions and approaches in order to better understand the human condition and the different types of professional assistance that can be germane to people in complicated relationship situations.

To learn more about her and her relationship coaching practice, visit today and schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy to begin the process of resolving your infidelity situation in a way that's truly right for you.

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