83: Boundaries with Melissa Hite

Melissa Hite is the Founder of Higher Sex Education, where she offers one-on-one coaching and teaches classes and workshops. As a Sexual-Spiritual Advisor, Melissa works holistically with clients to integrate all parts of themselves in practical ways. Not only is Melissa certified as a Holistic Sex Educator through The Institute of Sexual Education and Enlightenment, but she’s also a certified pole fitness instructor and has 15 years of massage therapy experience. In addition to this, Melissa spent 10 years working in Nevada's legal brothel industry.

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

• Melissa Hite reveals the misconceptions surrounding internal and external boundaries

• The importance of recognizing your body signals when making decisions

• How to effectively listen to your body’s messages

• Melissa discusses honoring your needs and finding alignment with yourself

• Releasing control of other people’s actions and taking responsibility for your own

• Why you shouldn’t negate your feelings and needs in a relationship

• Melissa talks about maintaining and communicating healthy boundaries

• How to avoid turning boundaries into ultimatums

• Ways to thoughtfully express your feelings and desires

In this episode…

How does the way you understand and express boundaries affect your relationships? What does it look like when your needs are in alignment? And, can creating better boundaries with yourself lead to more pleasure in your external relationships and life?

According to Melissa Hite, to live an authentic life, it’s important to communicate boundaries with yourself and with others. Melissa says you should not negate what your body and mind are telling you in order to remain in a relationship. Instead, choose yourself, or you will feel the effects of not honoring your needs. When your boundaries are heard and respected without justification, you’ll have the safety and clarity needed to strengthen your relationships.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy is joined by Melissa Hite, Founder and Sexual-Spiritual Advisor at Higher Sex Education, to discuss her advice for setting and understanding boundaries with yourself and others. Melissa talks about recognizing your body signals when making decisions, learning how to honor your needs, and thoughtfully expressing your boundaries without creating an ultimatum.

Resources Mentioned in this episode

• Higher Sex Education

• Melissa Hite's "Boundless Living" Course

• Higher Sex Education on Facebook

• Higher Sex Education on Instagram

• Dr. Marie Murphy

• Schedule an Introductory Coaching Session with Dr. Marie Murphy

• Dr. Marie Murphy on LinkedIn

• "Sexuality, Religion, and Shame with Melissa Hite” on Your Secret is Safe With Me

• Bodymind by Ken Dychtwald

• Burnout: The Secret To Solving The Stress Cycle by Amelia and Emily Nagoski

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