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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

47: Being the “Other Person,” Part Three

Updated: Nov 16, 2022

Dr. Marie Murphy

Dr. Marie Murphy is a Relationship Coach, specializing in helping people who are having affairs make decisions on how to move forward — without judgment. She has a Ph.D. in Sociology with an emphasis in Sexuality from the University of California, San Diego, and has been teaching sex education since her high school years. Dr. Murphy is also a yoga instructor and has previously taught meditation.

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

  • Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the question: can a relationship survive beyond the affair bubble?

  • How to determine whether to stay or go — and why ultimatums typically aren’t the best option

  • Dr. Murphy talks about maintaining control of your own timeline, not your partner’s

  • The emotional rollercoaster of waiting on the sideline while your affair partner tries to leave their relationship

  • How long should you wait for your partner to make a decision?

In this episode…

Being the “other person” in an affair is complicated, to say the least. You fell in love with an amazing person, but are now stuck waiting for them to leave their long-term partner. With such difficult emotions at play, how can you choose the best path forward?

According to Dr. Marie Murphy, it’s easy to obsess over your partner’s decisions when you’re the “other person” in an affair. However, it’s important to remember that you have ultimate control over your life — and the decisions you make in your relationship. While you may not be able to change when or if your partner leaves their other relationship, Dr. Murphy has some strategies for owning your power, embracing uncertainty, and choosing the option that is best for you.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy discusses the emotional rollercoaster of waiting for your affair partner to leave their marriage or long-term relationship. She talks about how relationships can survive the affair bubble, the challenge of waiting for your partner to make a decision, and her advice for choosing the best path forward. Stay tuned.

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Dr. Marie Murphy provides shame-free, blame-free, and non-judgmental relationship coaching. She draws from different philosophical traditions and approaches in order to better understand the human condition and the different types of professional assistance that can be germane to people in complicated relationship situations.

To learn more about her and her relationship coaching practice, visit today and schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy to begin the process of resolving your infidelity situation in a way that's truly right for you.

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