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  • Writer's pictureMarie Murphy

43: Being the "Other Person," Part One

Updated: Nov 16, 2022

Dr. Marie Murphy

Dr. Marie Murphy is a Relationship Coach, specializing in helping people who are having affairs make decisions on how to move forward — without judgment. She has a Ph.D. in Sociology with an emphasis in Sexuality from the University of California, San Diego, and has been teaching sex education since her high school years. Dr. Murphy is also a yoga instructor and has previously taught meditation.

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

  • Dr. Marie Murphy shares some of the challenges that the “other person” in an affair faces

  • The difficulty of keeping your relationship a secret

  • What problems tend to come from being involved in an affair bubble?

  • Two possibilities that people in the role of the “other person” often overlook

  • The importance of gaining clarity about your choices without judging yourself

  • How can you reclaim your power in a relationship?

  • Why wishing for other options isn’t helpful — but recognizing your actual choices is

  • How Dr. Murphy can help you

In this episode…

Being the “other person” in an affair can be exciting, but it also comes with its own unique challenges. You may sometimes feel like you’re stuck or powerless in your situation. And, because of the taboo nature of the relationship, you might not have anyone to talk to about your feelings besides your affair partner. So, how can you figure out what you really want from your relationship and start changing your circumstances today?

According to Dr. Marie Murphy, you have more power over your situation than you think. However, you need to get clear about your feelings and desires in order to access that power. While simply wishing for things to change won’t help, there are techniques that you can use to navigate your relationship and make choices that will serve your best interests.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks about the experience of being the “other person” in someone else’s affair. Dr. Murphy describes the various challenges that the “other person” typically faces, the importance of getting clear on how you feel without judging yourself, and the tried-and-true strategies for regaining your power. Stay tuned!

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Dr. Marie Murphy provides shame-free, blame-free, and non-judgmental relationship coaching. She draws from different philosophical traditions and approaches in order to better understand the human condition and the different types of professional assistance that can be germane to people in complicated relationship situations.

To learn more about her and her relationship coaching practice, visit today and schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy to begin the process of resolving your infidelity situation in a way that's truly right for you.


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