Marie Murphy
159: You Can’t Eat the Whole Elephant at Once
Dr. Marie Murphy is sharing how to start making decisions about your infidelity systematically, one step at a time.
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Marie Murphy
- Sep 13
- 2 min
158: Forgiving Yourself & Forgiving Others
Discover how to decide to forgive yourself or someone else for the best possible reasons or decide that forgiveness isn’t necessary.
50 views
Marie Murphy
- Sep 6
- 2 min
157: You Might Be an Asshole
Dr. Marie Murphy is unpacking the idea that just because someone else thinks you’re an asshole, that doesn’t mean you are one.
91 views
Marie Murphy
- Aug 30
- 2 min
156: Nurturing a Long-Term Affair (Part 2)
This week, Marie is going in-depth on the things you and your affair partner need to take collective responsibility for.
109 views
Marie Murphy
- Aug 23
- 2 min
155: Nurturing a Long-Term Affair (Part 1)
Learn how to take responsibility for your own business in your affair relationship, and you'll be amazed by what happens.
213 views
Marie Murphy
- Aug 16
- 2 min
154: Being Your Own Steward
Dr. Marie Murphy is showing you why it's up to you how you live your life and how to consciously start being your own steward.
135 views
Marie Murphy
- Aug 9
- 2 min
153: Your Questions Answered (Part 5)
Discover how to deal with other people’s opinions about your infidelity or your new relationship, and how to navigate family dynamics.
120 views
Marie Murphy
- Aug 2
- 2 min
152: Seeing Your Ex-Affair Partner in Social Settings
Discover how to deal with seeing your ex-affair partner in a social setting. Learn about the importance of dropping judgment.
175 views
Marie Murphy
- Jul 26
- 2 min
151: Your Questions Answered (Part 4)
Dr. Marie Murphy is back and answering some more of your questions in this week’s episode. This time, she’s had a handful of questions...
116 views
Marie Murphy
- Jul 19
- 2 min
150: Your Questions Answered (Part 3)
Dr. Marie Murphy is back for the third part of her Q&A series to answer your burning questions about infidelity, relationships, and...
127 views
Marie Murphy
- Jul 12
- 2 min
149: Your Questions Answered (Part 2)
Dr. Marie Murphy has received numerous questions, prompting her to return with a second Q&A episode. You can still submit your queries...
136 views
Marie Murphy
- Jul 5
- 2 min
148: Your Questions Answered (Part 1)
Dr. Marie Murphy recently offered to answer any questions that listeners wanted to submit. Well, today is the day, and Marie is here for...
198 views
Marie Murphy
- Jun 28
- 2 min
147: You Can’t Shame Yourself into Changing
There is an idea floating around in the cultural fog that if you tell yourself you're doing something wrong or that doing a particular...
214 views
Marie Murphy
- Jun 22
- 2 min
146: Loving Your Decisions
One of the biggest themes Dr. Marie Murphy's clients struggle with when they come to her for help is making decisions. With all the...
239 views
Marie Murphy
- Jun 14
- 2 min
145: Don’t Wait to Get Caught
The idea behind this podcast isn't to sow fear or suggest that if you're in an infidelity situation, you'll definitely get caught. If you...
281 views
Marie Murphy
- Jun 7
- 2 min
144: Your One Wild and Precious Life
Last week, Dr. Marie Murphy discussed the intricacies of treating your infidelity situation like a life project. This week's episode...
266 views
Marie Murphy
- May 31
- 2 min
143: Treating Your Infidelity Situation as a Life Project
Viewing infidelity as an unsolvable problem may keep you stuck, but seeing it as a life project to tackle can open up many other paths.
225 views
Marie Murphy
- May 24
- 2 min
142: Trying to Get Back to the Way a Relationship Used to Be
Some individuals who engage in infidelity express a desire to recommit to their spouse or primary partner, longing for a return to the...
251 views
Marie Murphy
- May 17
- 2 min
141: Contentment That Isn’t Dependent Upon a Relationship
Last week, Dr. Marie Murphy discussed why loneliness is often a factor in infidelity situations and how to deal with the emotion of...
128 views
Marie Murphy
- May 10
- 2 min
140: Loneliness
People often think of loneliness as the feeling that comes from isolation or being alone. However, being alone doesn’t necessarily lead...
153 views
Marie Murphy
- May 3
- 2 min
139: Comparing Your Spouse to Your Affair Partner
Comparison is a normal human behavior, especially if you’re romantically involved with multiple people. There is a time and place to make...
375 views
Marie Murphy
- Apr 26
- 2 min
138: Telling a New Partner About Your History with Infidelity
You get to decide what you share about yourself with other people. If you have stories of life experiences, whether those stories have a...
84 views
Marie Murphy
- Apr 19
- 2 min
137: If You Don’t Feel Guilty About Cheating
Sometimes people who have been engaging in infidelity say, “I don’t actually feel guilty about cheating,” as if they’re confessing...
2,446 views
Marie Murphy
- Apr 12
- 2 min
136: If You’ve Been Stuck in Your Infidelity Situation for a While
Last week, Dr. Marie Murphy discussed how to get your bearings in a brand-new infidelity situation. This week, she’s addressing those of...
311 views
Marie Murphy
- Apr 5
- 2 min
135: When Your Infidelity Situation is Brand New
How does infidelity begin? Maybe you’ve been in an ostensibly monogamous relationship for a while now but you like to make out with...
213 views
Marie Murphy
- Mar 29
- 2 min
134: Cheating in Open Relationships
Sometimes, a couple will have an agreement that they aren’t in a monogamous relationship. They think they have a shared agreement of what...
177 views
Marie Murphy
- Mar 22
- 2 min
133: Don’t Make Your Partner Break Up with You
When someone in a committed relationship has been cheating on their partner and they feel stuck in deciding what they want to do, they...
297 views
Marie Murphy
- Mar 15
- 2 min
132: Stop Minimizing the Importance of Sex
Is sex important to you in a relationship? Not everyone wants to prioritize sex because they just don’t like it, don’t want it, or are...
268 views
Marie Murphy
- Mar 8
- 2 min
131: Breaking Up with Someone You’ve Been Cheating On
When you decide that it’s time to break up with someone you’ve been cheating on, you’ll likely have a lot of questions about how to...
276 views
Marie Murphy
- Mar 1
- 2 min
130: Implicit Permission to Cheat
Say you and your partner started off as a monogamous couple, but then you started discussing “alternate arrangements” and it turned out...
157 views
Marie Murphy
- Feb 22
- 2 min
129: Cultivating Clarity and Certainty (Part 2)
If you’re in the midst of an infidelity situation and you’re confused about what to do next, it’s generally the case that you may be...
256 views
Marie Murphy
- Feb 15
- 2 min
128: Cultivating Clarity and Certainty
Last week, Dr. Marie Murphy discussed the reality of seeking advice from other people, and why it’s significantly more beneficial to...
292 views
Marie Murphy
- Feb 8
- 2 min
127: The Limits of Other People’s Advice
There are times in life when looking for advice makes a lot of sense. If you’re looking for a new electric car, you have a clearly...
142 views
Marie Murphy
- Feb 1
- 2 min
126: Regret is Optional
What is your relationship with the feeling of regret? People talk about regret as if it's this thing that is beyond their control. Dr....
223 views
Marie Murphy
- Jan 25
- 2 min
125: Privately Grieving the End of an Affair
When an affair relationship comes to an end and you’re experiencing some grief around that situation, you will probably feel compelled to...
1,184 views
Marie Murphy
- Jan 18
- 2 min
124: Dealing with Other People’s Discomfort (Part 2)
For a lot of people, seeing someone they care about feeling uncomfortable emotions can lead to unbearably uncomfortable emotions for...
117 views
Marie Murphy
- Jan 11
- 2 min
123: Abundance vs. Scarcity of Love
Sometimes, people get into situations that seem to involve a choice between one romantic partner and another. If you’re in a committed...
293 views
Marie Murphy
- Jan 4
- 2 min
122: Yes, People Can Be Total Jerks Sometimes
In episode 119, Dr. Marie Murphy discussed how to manage your concerns around explaining how your relationship began as an affair, and...
188 views
Marie Murphy
- Dec 29, 2022
- 2 min
121: How Good Can You Stand It?
Discover how to allow yourself to want things, and that it’s safe to allow yourself to enjoy what you want. Even if you and your affair part
251 views
Marie Murphy
- Dec 21, 2022
- 2 min
120: Managing Your Worries
One of the great things about being human is that we have a sophisticated brain capable of doing amazing things. But so often, we let our...
218 views
Marie Murphy
- Dec 14, 2022
- 2 min
119: Explaining How a Relationship Began
How do you go about telling people the story of how your relationship began, if it started as an affair, or in the context of an...
172 views
Marie Murphy
- Dec 7, 2022
- 2 min
118: The Intimacy of a Breakup
Breaking up with someone can be a very intimate process. Not every breakup fosters intimacy, but it definitely happens, and it’s...
328 views
Marie Murphy
- Nov 30, 2022
- 2 min
117: Jealousy
Jealousy occurs within the context of any relationship. However, when you’re shifting from an affair into a non-affair relationship, it’s...
270 views
Marie Murphy
- Nov 24, 2022
- 2 min
116: Uniquely Difficult Situations in Life
Dr. Marie Murphy shows you why waiting to make a decision probably isn’t going to make your unique situation any easier.
189 views
Marie Murphy
- Nov 17, 2022
- 2 min
115: From an Affair to a Non-Affair Relationship
Tune in to discover what you’re trying to avoid by telling yourself you can’t transition from an affair to a non-affair relationship.
574 views
Marie Murphy
- Nov 10, 2022
- 2 min
114: Questioning Common Beliefs About Marriage
Tune in this week to start questioning the common beliefs about marriage that make so many infidelity situations so much more difficult.
238 views
Marie Murphy
- Nov 3, 2022
- 2 min
113: Wanting Something and Not Having It Yet
How to start getting clear on the outcome you want for your infidelity situation, while dealing with the intense feelings of not having it.
328 views
Marie Murphy
- Oct 27, 2022
- 2 min
112: Being a Human Feels Terrible Sometimes
Dr. Marie Murphy is discussing why the traditionally prescribed intolerance of feeling awful isn’t actually helpful.
204 views
Marie Murphy
- Oct 20, 2022
- 2 min
111: The Price of Convenience
Tune in this week to discover the price of living in convenience over taking the uncomfortable action.
292 views
Marie Murphy
- Oct 13, 2022
- 2 min
110: What Do You Owe Someone You’ve Cheated On?
Discover what you might or might not owe somebody you’ve cheated on. You’ll learn a technique for examining your beliefs.
623 views
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